Moving with Teens
Moving is emotionally trying for the entire family, but especially for teens. Teens are on the threshold of adulthood, and moving away from friends and school can bring on a range of emotions that affect the entire family. By taking a few proactive steps, you can make the move easier for both you and your teens.
Tell teens about the move as soon as possible. Teenagers need time to adjust to the idea that they will be leaving friends and school.
Acknowledge their feelings. A move brings up many feelings for a teen such as anger and sadness. It’s important to keep communication lines open and recognize these feelings as real. An adult has the experience to know life goes on after a move, but for a teen, it could be the ‘end of the world’.
Involve your teen during the move. Assign tasks like packing and helping with younger children that draw on their responsibility and keep them busy.
Research their new school. Encourage them to get on the Internet to find out about their new school. On the school website, your teen can explore academics, athletics, and potential clubs and events.
Ease Your Teen's Angst
Ease your teen’s anxiety around parting with friends. Talk with them about having friends to visit on weekends or during the summer. Give your approval to hold a ‘going away’ party for your teen and his or her friends shortly before you go. You might do this for your teen whether you are making a local move or moving long distance.
Keep an eye out for possible emotional problems after the move. While a period of adjustment is necessary after moving your teenager, if sadness or anger seem to linger longer than you think necessary, schedule an appointment with the school guidance counselor or private therapist to discuss the adjustment.